During our training to become therapists, we are introduced to different psychology and counselling theories that offer different ways of conceptualizing how a person’s problems develop and how they can be approached. These unique understandings of human experiences and treatment planning are called a therapist’s theoretical orientation. It serves as the basic guiding principle in developing treatment and as well as informing the style of interaction with you. It is a great idea to inquire a therapist about our training, life experience, and the theoretical orientations we employ at work. Consider your own preferences while learning about my orientations to see if my approaches resonate with your objectives and vision of therapy.
Daisy’s therapeutic approach integrates eclectic frameworks of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy, CBT, Emotionally-Focused, Attachment, Feminist, and Adlerian Therapy.
Emotion is the music of the relationship dance. It communicates to others and ourselves, what our motivations and needs are. Since human beings have an innate need to stay connected with significant others, the development of a secure attachment with loved ones is sought after in therapy. EFT therefore focuses on developing secure attachment bonds as a means to alleviate distress in couples or families. It aims to help each partner or family member see their behaviors in the context of the relationship system, teach them to identify the emotions underlying their behaviors, and then develop new positive interactions replacing the perpetual disruptive cycles.
The three stages of EFT:
According to Adler, individuals develop a plan for their life during early childhood known as the lifestyle, allowing them to adapt to changing life circumstances across lifespan. The lifestyle goals influenced by family constellation, involve using private logic, which is a form of reasoning based on children’s unique interpretations. The paramount goal of Adlerian therapy is to remove destructive beliefs and behaviours directed to self, others, and the world, and to replace them with tools that will allow clients to become confident and socially empowered.
Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space. Upon birth and corresponding to the caregiving style, the infant may form one of four attachment styles with the caregiver known as Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Disorganized. Attachment theorists allege that the root cause of human misbehaviour can be traced back to the failure of establishing a secure attachment to the primary caregiver in early childhood years. This infant-caregiver relationship may repeat itself in adult relationship by how we interact in and what we expect from our interpersonal relationships, especially our romantic partner. Therapist addresses your core attachment styles, how it reveals itself in various relationships, and suggests methods for transforming attachment wounds into healing. The goal is to help you establish a secure attachment with important persons in your life.